Love is a wonderful feeling to have. And sharing this feeling with the right person is a beautiful thing indeed. Falling in love changes everything, it gives you a new perspective about life and gives you new experiences with your person.
Many times people have been unlucky enough in their love life. They meet people they feel are their forever person. However, along the line, things fall out of line, and the previous harmonious relationship turns into something else.
It hurts a lot when you spend months and perhaps years with a person you thought was your person, only for them to break your heart at a point in time. Or only to realise, you just cannot have that click with them.
All the sacrifice, the energy, the time, and most importantly, the love, all go down the drain. It makes people wonder, ‘How then do we know we found our person? ‘ The answer is not one to be stated as a simple sentence. It is one that requires ample research and detailed information that will give you the answer you seek.
There are many clues that can show that you have met your person. But for many of these clues, we have another form of attraction called infatuation that can give you the same feelings that love gives. Just that, this occurs for over a short while, say, a few months, but love can occur for years and years.
For most people, it requires very careful consideration and research. Thus, they will need to spend a great deal of time with the said person to know whether they are indeed the one or not. But in all, there are certain distinct signs that show that you met your forever person.
The things you do with your forever person will definitely be different from those you are just attracted to sexually. Therefore, there is a line drawn between true love and ‘ just a fling’. Below are some of those signs. Take note of them, and you will know whether or not your partner is indeed your person.
How You Know You Found Your Person
1. You Both Can Resolve Conflicts Well
We all know how conflicts and misunderstandings are a day-to-day thing in relationships. These conflicts, when not handled correctly, can decapitate the relationship we have worked hard to build. However, when managed correctly, it is one of the key things that helps to strengthen the relationship. It helps you both to understand things from each other’s perspectives and as such, you do your best to avoid each other’s deal breakers.
When you both are able to handle these conflicts, your bond grows tighter and stronger. The moment you realize how much you are both able to love each other despite these conflicts that most of the time seem to drag the relationship down, it means you have found your person. More so because you understand how much you value and cherish your partner and, as such, would not sacrifice your love for a mere situation.
It all stems from how much understanding you both have for each other. Because of that, whenever these conflicts happen, you both use them as a chance to get to know each other better. If that is the case between you and your partner, then you have found your person.
2. You Are Vulnerable To Each Other
Vulnerability stems from how much you both know and understand each other. Basically, how vulnerable you both are determines how much you trust each other. When you know and trust your partner, you know their most silliest secrets. You know their flaws and what constitutes their being. And as such, you both rely on each other for emotional support when in need of it.
And you see no reason to deny the other of it. In fact, you both always look forward to that bonding. You do not see any reason to let the other down. It might be that you have a history of a past relationship where your vulnerability was badly bruised, but even though memories and pain remain, you still feel different about this person. You should be able to tell from that alone that you have indeed found the one.
3. There Is Trust
Apart from all the aspects of love, trust is one of the few things that shows how much tighter the bond you both share is. Without trust, you can rest assured that your partner is doing stuff you have no idea about. But when you both trust each other, you are able to share secrets and become vulnerable to each other.
In most relationships, minimal trust is the cause of many heartbreaks and insecurities. However, when you and your partner trust each other, there is no such thing. Once you and your partner agree on this point too, then that means you found your person.
4. You Are Able To Make Sacrifices Without Thinking Twice
When you find your person, you make sacrifices without much thought, more so because their needs are yours. Sacrifice is another form of love. In everything you do, you make sure to take your partner into consideration.
And if your choices do not align with theirs, you do not hesitate to compromise to their benefit. And it is not like you are the only one who feels this way; if they also feel the same and are skilled at making compromises for your sake, then you are very lucky.
If that is the case, rest assured that you have found your person; if not, then it might be that you are being used.
5. You Understand Each Other’s Boundaries
In relationships, boundaries are what keep us secure and true to ourselves. Every person out there has their own unique boundaries that make them unique. It has nothing to do with flaws or habits, but for better clarity, it can be compared to what deal breakers are.
Your understanding and acknowledgment of the other’s deal breakers show how much you both are ready to walk down the forever path. The more they try to avoid your deal breakers and try to make you feel safe, the more you must know that they are your person and they are the ones you must walk the aisle to.
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6. You Overlook Flaws
As much as you know and acknowledge their flaws, they also feel the same towards you. You both know that you have shortcomings and, because of that, are not perfect, but despite that, you know that they are still the ones you want. You feel okay with them. They may forget to lay the bed or leave their clothes on the floor, yet you understand it is a part of them, and as such, you still feel okay with them. Your comfortability must let you know that they are your person.
7. You Know There Is A Future
When you are with them, aside from you both sharing plans for the future, you know there actually is a bright future for the love you share. You actually understand the fact that your relationship has somewhere to go.
It is not like you are both just making empty future plans. You both are working actively towards that future and you both see what is happening and where you both are going. That means that you have found your person.
8. Communication Is Easy
Honestly, it is not a very easy feat to communicate with everyone, especially your deepest desires, needs, and secrets. It would be weird to tell your mom, father, or siblings some things, even your friends as well. Aside from these people, there are certain relationships where you do not feel safe communicating your thoughts. But with this person, you are able to freely communicate with them without any form of holding back on your part or any hindrance from external factors.
And as easy as it is to communicate with them, they make it even easier and more enjoyable by giving you all the time and also doing their best to relate to your feelings, even when you know they don’t.
9. You Enjoy A Certain Chemistry
To know if you found your person, you need to consider this point very carefully. Your real person is able to share with you feelings you are unable to share with anyone. This feeling comprises both physical and emotional aspects. You are able to share a wonderful bond, understand each other’s needs, and make sure they are well-catered for.
It is more like you have made intimacy the backbone of your relationship. Most of the time, concerning this topic, I usually tell my audience that true chemistry or true intimacy does not only involve sex; it also involves being available for each other and spending time together.
I also emphasize the fact that, with true intimacy and chemistry, just being by your partner’s side is pleasurable enough. And when you feel the same for your partner, and they also share the same feeling towards you, then you have found your person.
10. They Want You To Grow
When you realize at a certain point that this person you are with does everything in their power to see you go further in life, then you have indeed found your person. Their actions show how much they see you as an important addition to their life.
And as such, they see your success as theirs. When they show you how important it is to fight for your dreams and support you during your tough moments as well, it is more than enough of a sign for you that they are your person.
When a person does not care for you and only seeks to take advantage of you, one noticeable telltale sign is how uninterested they seem in your aspirations. They care less. But these people think and act otherwise. That should tell you something.
11. Change Is Not Needed ( Here Me Out )
When you know someone is your person, whoever they are is enough for you. Their personality is what makes you love them. They also do not see any reason why you should also change for them. Therefore, you both feel there is nothing to change about your personality.
It is not that change is not good for you. But if anything, you have been together for a while, and now that you understand each other better, you understand why your partner does some things. And if there are some extremely bad habits they need to quit, you help them to do so, but aside from that, their personality is what gives you peace. If that is the case, then you have found your person.
12. There Is An Inexplicable Love
If ever there is a reason for love, then that love really is limited. If a person loves because of beauty, you needs to know the truth, which is that beauty fades away. If it is money, character, or whatever, the same applies. When you love your partner with everything you have but have no idea why you love them so much, that must tell you something. And that is that they are indeed your person.
13. You Care About Each Other’s Opinion
Another way you know you found your partner is when they do not undermine your opinion, and neither do you. You value what they say a lot. It is true that both your opinions are different, and most of the time, your opinions contradict theirs, but if you are still able to perceive things from their point of view in comparison with yours and still see reason, that must mean something. Even if you do not see reason with the opinion but you still want to give it thought, it might mean that you found your person.
Final Words
All in all, no relationship is perfect. All the ones you see online, forget them; they are just mere shows to seek more attention. But for a real-life relationship, it is never perfect. But in the end, if you feel safe, happy, and most importantly, very much in love, but also understand the fact that relationships are not about love alone, but a work-in-progress endeavor and that mindset is all pointed to one person, that person is the world to you. Hold them tight. They are your person.
