No matter how outgoing or happy you usually are, there are times when something happens that brings you down. Society often expects men to always be fine and not show emotional vulnerability, but men are human too, and they experience sadness just like anyone else.
When we feel this way, it could be due to various factors. Pressures from work or heavy responsibilities might weigh on us, leading to stress.
Sometimes, it’s more than just external factors. It could simply be that we’re having a really tough day. In those moments, the best way to cope may be to lay low for a while until we feel ready to recover. During these times, though we may often prefer to be left alone for a bit, it’s part of how we process and heal.
However, we cannot actually say that we don’t want to be cheered up. It’s just that if you want to cheer us up, you must know what you are doing; otherwise, you need to get the idea out of your mind, or else you might end up messing things up.
Men are beings who don’t like to let people in on their weaknesses and in such times when they are feeling down, it is hard to get them to talk to you, much less cheer them up.
But in any relationship, it is very crucial for both romantic partners to understand ways to cheer each other up and help them navigate some of life’s emotional storms. Its just that sometimes when you want to cheer someone up, you just do not know where to start from or where to end it. That makes it frustrating even for you who want to cheer them up.
If you are in such a spot, worry not, as you just found the right place. This article will guide you on some of the best ways to tend to your boyfriend in times when he is feeling down. Such that in the end, when you are done with him, he will cheer up just like you want him to.
The following things are what you must make sure to keep note of as you read through this article. They will guide you to know how to cheer your boyfriend up.
Acknowledge His Feelings
Once you notice that your boyfriend is down emotionally, this is the first thing you must keep in mind. Accept the fact that he is just not in the best of moods to make time for you.
Of course it can be frustrating, especially when you really want to spend time with him. Instead of forcing the issue, you should try to understand what he is going through.
And the best way to go about it is to make sure to listen to him. It would be very rare to see him open up, but once he does, do your best to give him a listening ear.
Supposing there is nothing you can do about what he is going through, that is the least thing you can do for him.
Sometimes too, he might not tell you of his problems. When he doesn’t, you just need to read in-between the lines to know that he seriously is not feeling okay in that instance, and the best thing to do in those moments is to just understand that he is just feeling down due to something.
If he chooses to speak, give a listening ear; however, if he doesn’t, make sure to try and understand him. He’ll definitely come around.
Once you give him that space, although he might be going through the hell of a moment, he will still cherish the fact that, you know he needs to be alone. And at times that feeling of having someone understand how we feel alone is enough to cheer us up.
Be Emotionally Supportive
There are a lot of things you can do to support him emotionally. When a man feels down, he definitely will need someone to pick him up.
One of the many things you can do is to reassure him of his worth. Let him know how much he means to you, despite whatever issues he might be facing.
Men are very sophisticated, no doubt about that, but at times too, we can be very simple. And you as a woman must keep in mind that, regardless of how down a man might feel, you have the power to affect how he feels every instance.
The fact that you are able to assure him of his worth in your life alone is enough to urge him to temporarily forget about his issues.
The next thing you can do is to provide him with heartfelt affirmations. These things will no doubt intoxicate him emotionally, such that he will be able to keep his mind off whatever might be disturbing him.
These affirmations must not necessarily be anything too grand. They just need to be simple. A few examples you might want to try are:
- You are my heart desire.
- Your problems are mine.
- I love you even in your lowest moments
- You are the best thing that ever happened to me.
- Your problems can’t defeat the love I have for you.
They all add up to let him know that you have seen what he is going through, and each of your efforts is a way of letting him know that you truly care about how he feels. And that alone can be enough to make him come around.
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These ideas do not need to be anything too grand. They just have to be able to cheer him up. Keep in mind that, being the woman that you are, no matter how moody your boyfriend might be feeling, you have the power to affect him greatly.
You need to know that these thoughtful gestures go a long way to let him know that you actually care for him and, as such, do not want him going through any painful moments.
These ideas do not need to be perfect; they can be as sloppy as possible, but the end goal here is that we are going to cheer up your boyfriend, and this section will help you with just that.
Cook His Favorite Food
They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. And regardless of how much a person will feel sad or down, they can never say no to their stomach.
So then what better way to his stomach than his favourite food? It will help him to calm down while appreciating your thoughtfulness.
Pay Him A Surprise Visit
And supposing you don’t stay in the same house, once you realise he is not in a good mood, the best thing you can do in that instance is to visit him at home while he is not aware.
Most of the time, your presence alone and the feeling that there is someone who actually cares about how he feels are enough to let him feel okay.
Go On A Date
Say maybe during the weekends. Men can be very stubborn, especially when we feel too tired due to our emotional issues or work or whatever, and as such, when you decide to plan events on the weekends for us, we might not want to cooperate with you.
That is unless we also want a way out of the emotional burdens, then a man would be very adamant on being by himself–to rest and reset his emotions.
But you need to keep in mind that, once he proves stubborn, there is a way to go about it, and that is, to just acknowledge his stand.
Yes, that is all you can do because they say you can force the horse to the riverside, but you can never force it to drink.
It would be problematic to be on the bad side of your boyfriend all because you wanted to force a date on him. If he chooses not to go, you can suggest cooking together. If all fails, learn to be patient while focussing on the task at hand to cheer him up.
Watch A Movie Together
Another wonderful thing you might want to consider is watching a movie together. You both do not need to go out to watch the movie.
You can do so from the comfort of your home. You can choose the latest Rom‐Com to enjoy. While doing that, make sure to cuddle with him.
Once you do that, it helps him to relax his mind so much so that he will temporarily be able to keep his mind off anything that might be bothering him.
Write A Love Letter
Of course it might sound old-fashioned and a bit childish, but the power it wields can be unprecedented. Let him know in the letter that you know he is going through some tough times and that you know he does not want to open up.
Let him know that despite how much that might inconvenience you, you are okay. Tell him also in the letter that you need him to get back to how he always is lively, cheerful, and loving.
Let him know everything you want him to know all by writing in the love letter. You can choose to put it under his pillow, on the bed, in the mirror, or even in his drawer or bag.
Just anywhere he would easily find. Do this and see magic. It might not be immediate, but he will still appreciate the fact that, even when things aren’t right by him, there is one other thing that is and always will be by him, and that is you.
Aside from that, you can also choose to send him text messages. He does not necessarily have to be far away from you. Even when you are both sitting on the same couch, you can send him text messages to let him know that you care. You can make them as silly as possible. It will all help to make his mood a little better.
Sing Him A Song
As much as that might sound silly to you, it is actually very powerful to make him smile. It does not matter whether not you can sing.
If you are good at singing and have a nice voice, that is good. And if you can’t, that is even better. He’ll laugh his ass off anyway.
Sometimes music can be a very effective way to control a person’s emotions. And in the case when your partner is feeling down, once you feel like you have tried everything but to no avail, try singing him a song; it should be his favourite one.
If you can’t, you can play for him through the sound systems you have in place at home. He’ll really appreciate your efforts.
Bad times come and go. When your boyfriend is feeling down emotionally. It is understandable that you might want to do everything to see him smile again. And that is very thoughtful of you as well. However keep in mind that if all else fails, the best thing to do is to have patience and wait for him to come around because.
As much as we would appreciate you looking out for us, you can also become very annoying to us if you don’t keep a hold unto it. In all your dealings with your boyfriend who is emotionally down, make sure to be very thoughtful.
