Why would anyone ever want to keep a secret? And that too, a man? Well, you need to understand that, just like women keep secrets, men are no different. There are times when we find ourselves keeping more and more secrets.
And we do so for several reasons too (good ones). People see men as the type that would not bother themselves with secrets, since most men are more expressive when it comes to issues and relationships.
But what people fail to realize is that men too are humans; we have lived life, gone to places, and done some things. And some of these things we know deep down within our hearts that we must not and cannot tell, no matter what. Some are our darkest desires, our past actions, and many more.
Now, do you not think you would be shocked to hear some of these things? Provided you would or would not, sometimes we may feel like it is not necessary at all to bother people with these secrets, and the majority of these people are the women we live with, like our moms and spouses. There are things we would readily tell our friends, but for a woman to know these things, the sky will have to fall.
But sometimes it is usually a good thing to know some of these secrets as a woman so that you will know how to relate to your man. Sometimes, for men too, we have some embarrassing thoughts in our minds we wish you knew and could do for us, but due to the fact that we feel they are ’embarrassing’, we keep them bottled within, and for others, we keep them to protect the relationship from falling into shambles.
These and many more are what this article will provide you. Some of these secrets are nasty and cute, while others are honorable. So as you read this, do so with understanding and empathy in your heart. Make sure not to judge a man afterward. Also, if you have an inkling that he is keeping a secret, you might not know what secrets he does not want to tell you.
Once your man decides not to tell you something, it is most likely that, at that point in time, he has probably nothing to say to you, hence the silent treatment. Therefore, in cases like those, do not take things to heart. Leave him be; he will always come around.
14 Secrets Men Keep Quiet About
The following are some of the secrets men will keep and will never tell you, especially when you are his woman.
- The Things We Do On A Stag Night
A stag night is another way you can call a male bachelor party. On a stag night, the groom spends some good time with his friends. That night can be said to be one of the best nights in the life of the groom, depending on how you view it.
As it is that night, he and his friends will drink to their fill. As well as do things this article cannot afford to cover for the sake of the other points.
However, you need to know that for men, whatever happens on that day, stays on that day and will never follow us into the next day. But if you still want to know some of the things we do on those days, disregarding the groom himself, how about imagining a wolf that has been granted a twenty-four-hour bail into a poultry farm? It is better left there, as no matter how much you persuade him to tell, it will still be left unsaid.
- We Love It When You Undo Our Tie Every Day After Work.
Most of the time, we find immense discomfort with this tie strangling our necks almost all the time. From home to the workplace, for almost eight hours, coupled with the stress. When we come home and you fail to remove this suicide tool from our necks, we almost always feel like crying.
Yep, there it is; I said it. It usually brings a lot of relief when you meet us midway, give us a tight hug, and undo it for us. However, since we feel like it is quite unmanly at times to brood over things like these, we suck it up with a slight frown and then undo it ourselves.
Honestly, if you do not do this for us, we might as well never be able to say it till it either slips out in frustration or we go to the grave with it never being said out loud.
- We Fear Commitment
Yes, and it is a fact. Men really do fear commitment, not all the time, though. We may love you with all of our hearts but there will be times when we feel conflicted, especially when there are a number of women on the line who have the right shapes, the right level of appearance, or anything else that is capable of matching up to your standard or actually out matching your standard.
That does not mean we would leave you for no reason for those women; however, you need to know that once we love, we do so intensely but there will always be this ounce of doubt in there.
- We Are Not As Cool As We May Seem
With all the swag and sway, we are actually not as perfect as we may seem on the surface. Most of the time, or almost all the time, we have our own challenges going on in our minds. We sometimes have to spend hours in the mirror just to decide if we are looking good or not before stepping outside. ‘
And with all the ‘keep your nose in the sky attitude’, they are mostly just a façade to hide our insecurities. Seemingly trying to look and appear as elegant as possible is a way to actually look good and attractive in the society where we find ourselves.
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- We Get Sad
You will not believe it, especially when your average man is either all serious-looking or always has this smile tugging at their lips. Well, sometimes we also feel sad, and for a lot of reasons. If the life of a woman can be hard, imagine that of a man.
We have flat buttocks and chests, and if we are lucky, we get a good woman to marry somewhere along the way in our struggles. A man has to make sure to secure a future for himself and his family so that he does not wallow in poverty.
But it happens at times when we go through a lot of stress at work or school. And for those still in school, will have to juggle work and studies, sometimes sleeping hungry in dire situations. Honestly, every man out there has his own situation that makes him sad sometimes.
Personally, as a student pursuing an undergrad degree, there are times I feel left alone in this world for several reasons, and people never seem to realize that part of me. We do indeed get sad at times. But we might never tell you. We will just feel like we need some time alone to reflect, cool down, and repaint that smile back on our faces.
- We Also Watch Romantic Movies
Speak of fairy tales, soap operas, and many more. When we get home from work or school, we will never hesitate to watch one or two romantic movies, provided we are alone. Yet we will never admit it. We mostly give out the vibe that they are time-wasting and such; well, take time to chance upon us and see, we really do enjoy them.
- We Are Attracted To Confident Women.
Just like women, most men, as much as they will settle with the woman of their dreams with no qualms, will most definitely give an eye to a confident woman. They have no doubt a certain irresistible charm about them.
But we will never tell you since it might hurt you, or we won’t tell you more because we like you just the way you are. Just that we find them attractive.
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- We Have Been Dumped A Couple Of Times
Well, that is a fact; we may or may not tell you, but that is one truth we probably will never admit. Every man out there most definitely must have had an experience with one or two women, and for some, it is a streak. It is usually an embarrassing situation for a man to be dumped by a woman. Therefore, as a way to still keep our noses up, we keep such issues under wraps.
- We Hate The Lectures
Mostly, in relationships, our women take pride in lecturing us about some things we do. As much as we might listen to you in silence, you can never imagine how much we scream for you to shut up. We need a lover, not a mother; why would you have to waste so much time lecturing us about eating habits and such? Or how or how not to do the laundry? We sit in silence and do not talk because we most definitely do not want to see you throw a tantrum, much less increase the degree and intensity of the lecture.
- We Hate Clingy Women
A clingy woman is an annoying being to almost every man out there. No man will hate or dislike a woman for whatever reason, but for such clinginess, we can’t ever seem to stomach it. As much as we will do our best not to lash out, we sometimes show some clues so that this clingy woman will at least be put off. We do things such as obviously withdrawing ourselves physically from whatever the encounter is. We won’t always say it out loud, but we hate clingy women.
- We Do Not Fantasize Sex (As Much)
Many people know and can say for a fact that men love sex or can’t do without sex. Well, it ain’t true. We can also go sex-free for a long time. We can actually deny sex many times if possible. We are not fans of sex like most people might think.
But once in a while, we won’t go without masturbating once or twice in a week. It is just how it is; it is just a matter of fact. But we might never tell you.
- We Are Not Into Your Physical Appearance
As opposed to what I stated previously, despite the fact that men will look at other beautiful women with better body shapes, we are actually never into them. And actually do not care about your looks. Once we get to know your personality and the kind of person you are, all we need to do is declare you the queen of our hearts, and you are all set.
Most women think men like them because of their physical appearance. As much as they may look attractive to us and we might flirt with or compliment them, that will be it. Although we are not too much into appearances, we do not mind you prioritizing them.
- The Actual Situation Financially
When it comes to our finances, we may or may not let you in on such information, but once we do, rest assured that you are not going to know the full story. Most men these days have had their experiences one way or another, and there is no way we are letting you know the full details of our financial situation, regardless of how much we love you. We would still keep some of them secret and might never let you know.
- Our Friendship With Other Women
We keep this secret for obvious reasons. We do not want you to think anything unhealthy, and as such, the best way to do so is to not tell you who our female friends are. We know that once you get to know that, jealousy won’t be out of the question.
Even when we do nothing suspicious with them, it is guaranteed that you will have your own possible thoughts about such friendships, and as such, we decide not to tell you at all. And that is one mistake we make as men. Personally, I am changing, so… It’s left with the others.
Final Words
Men keep secrets too, and it is usually in the best interest of people in relationships, especially women, to know some of these secrets so that, even when you finally get to know them, it won’t be a surprise to you. After that is said, I sincerely hope that you won’t judge the men because they also keep silly secrets.
Actually, it is called a secret for a reason, but once they finally decide to tell it, it is another thing. but for what is worth, this article provided you with some of the most common secrets men keep.
