Self esteem is the way one feels about himself. Abraham Maslow an American sociologist talks about self esteem needs in his pyramid of needs. A concept that helps an individual to know how he is important among others.
Self esteem can be high or low. It is high, when the individual sees himself as possessing valuable characteristics or experiences. It is also low when the individual does not see himself as worthy of anything.
4 Ways to build your self esteem
Below are things you can do everyday to improve your self esteem.
1. Be nice to yourself
We are always talking about how people treat us and the things they say to us. When in reality, the things we say to ourselves are worse than what people say to us.
So be nice to yourself. Talk nicely to yourself. Do nice things for yourself. Treat yourself like you would want others to treat you. And you will notice that your self worth will improve.
So identify and challenge your negative beliefs. Embrace yourself and love yourself and that will help build your self esteem.
2. Identify the positive things about yourself
Focus on your abilities and your skills. Identify and focus on what you can do. Figure out what skills you are good at. Is it singing, dancing, writing, drawing, cooking? Whatever your skill is, figure it out.
You can even write these down so that whenever you start to feel low about something you can’t do, you can remind yourself of all that you can do and know that you are gifted or blessed with a lot of potentials.
3. Build good relationship with others
Your relationship with others can affect your self esteem. If you are around people who always look down on you and make you feel bad about yourself, then you need to let those people go.
Build good relationships with people who love and support you and make you feel good about yourself.
4. Don’t be too hard on yourself
Always remember that nobody is perfect. Everybody makes mistakes. So when you do, don’t be so hard on yourself. Take what you can learn from it and move on with your life.
Take a break. Take time out and do something you love. Whether it is taking a bubble bath, reading or watching a movie. Just do something you love.
Self esteem varies from time to time, day to day, situation to situation. Some people feel relaxed and positive with friends and colleagues, but uneasy and shy with strangers. Others may feel totally in command of themselves at work but struggle socially. The key is not to be too hard on yourself.